Everlasting

"You had to let them move. Maybe you even had to let them go."-Sisterhood Everlasting, Anne Brashares.

Being a mom means making selfless decisions for a person who, will at some point, think you are incredibly selfish for whatever course of action you take. Being a mom means all other needs come before your own. Being a mom means growing with this little person, learning from them, and instilling everything good into them only to watch them someday leave you and sew magic into the world with everything they do.

I'm not a mom yet, or any time soon, but I am a best friend, and how similar they are! Sometimes you have to make the most selfless decisions. Sometimes you have to say goodbye. That doesn't take the times away or the memories or the goodness. It leaves room for new. Better.

Sometimes you put all of your good into a person, all of your love and wisdom, and they still make bad decisions, fall into the wrong crowd or just fall short of who you know they could be. Who they are. That doesn't mean they love you any less, and it doesn't mean you should love them any less. It just happens that way.

Sometimes you have to speak up in a friendship, even when it's hard and uncomfortable. He's not right for you, that dress doesn't flatter you, this isn't normal. Honesty-true honesty-stems from the deepest and most tender forms of love, I think.

Sometimes when you can't even hold your own world together, you have to stitch up someone else's. Sometimes daily. Sometimes over things you've never dealt with, or things you thought you wouldn't have to visit again. The hard things, the messy things, you have to be the band-aid, the glue. Sometimes, you have to be the levee that's bearing the brunt of it all.

And sometimes, you have to let go. Because it's best. Because it's right. Because there is a magic that can't be contained stemming from them and you are containing it. Because you love, oh how you love them. It's a thing only moms and bestfriends can understand.


"Together or apart, no matter how far apart, we live in one another. We go on together."-Sisterhood Everlasting, Anne Brashares

[Finished the 5th and final installment of the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series. No book has ever broken my heart more. Full of relevance, hurt, and healing, it tied the series up perfectly, but seriously, never read it.]